“Failure” is such a dirty word.
People in the arts talk a lot about bravery, about having the courage to follow your impulse no matter where it leads. What this means, in practical terms, is that you have to give yourself the right to fail. You have to accept failure, make friends with it.
Still, people don’t really talk much about failure. It’s considered rude.
In December I brought 50 pages of a new play to be read for an invited group at the Dramatists Guild. We spent a very pleasant hour there hearing what I had written. There were good parts and bad, some laughs, some moving moments. When it was all over I heard many nice things, and soon after received many supportive emails and calls.
But it was a failure. Make no mistake about it. I failed.
No one said that to me, of course, and I don’t think they were just being polite. I think that the only person who could really know that I failed was me. Everyone who came to the reading saw the same mixed bag up there that I did, but only I knew the dispiriting truth – I had reached a dead end. Others could easily have seen this likable mishmash as a promising start. I knew that it was over.
I kinda knew before the reading. I had been running out of gas for a while. I was hoping that something would happen in the reading to prove me wrong, or would appear that would show me the way I needed to go.
It didn’t.
What is one to do in the face of failure? My first response was “Abandon ship!” I would call the Coyotes and tell them that I appreciated their support but my experiment was a failure and it was time to move on. I thought about that a lot in the first few weeks after the reading. The thought gave me great comfort.
I never did make that call, though. I wonder why. Was it stubbornness? Gratitude to the Coyotes? A sneaking suspicion that there actually was a play in all that mishegoss if I could just see my way clear to finding it?
Silently, without ever acknowledging it, I accepted that I would try again. Once decided, I had an impulse to jump right in. Pop open the hood and get to work. Fix everything! Save what I liked and toss the rest!
I didn’t do that. Some other impulse, a deeper impulse, told me that anything I tried to do right away would be Band Aids on a hemorrhage. So I suppressed that impulse. Instead I did…nothing.
Actually, that’s not true. I did do something. I thought. I daydreamed.
The first thing to appear was a monologue. Then a new opening scene. Then an idea for a closing scene. Then a new twist on one of the original characters that would make her much more interesting. And before I knew it, my brain was firing again.
Since then, the ideas have flowed freely. I have ideas for scenes about libertarians, ventriloquists, and sodomy (have I stumbled on a new title?). I don’t know if any of them will work, but we’re about to find out.
I cannot promise success. I haven’t the faintest idea if any of it will work. But what I have now is the one thing I absolutely cannot write without.
I’m a little excited.
Great points all around, Johnny. So glad you got back on the horse. And no doubt, the Coyotes will be thankful too. Failure is such a loaded word. It implies (to me anyway) no hope for success. Sounds like you stumbled a bit, and now after some time to heal are picking yourself back up and getting back to business. Bravo.
Posted by: Rolando Teco | March 22, 2012 at 09:59 AM
What you describe, John, is anything but failure to me. Quite the opposite. It's The Process working beautifully.
So what if one project stalls? It simply becomes the buoy marking the way to the next. Granted it can FEEL like failure when you're in it, but now having a larger context, it's apparent it is just one part of a much larger whole. (I'm always trying to remember this, so when I'm in the middle of my next "failure", I can imagine ahead to what that "failure" is actually fertilizing.)
Richard Diebenkorn used to talk about his Ocean Park paintings this way: "I can make a phony Ocean Park and then do away with it. If that's what it takes to get started, why not?"
I love the self awareness of his "failure" and his self acceptance of the process, whatever it may be.
To me, John, you've succeeded beautifully.
Posted by: Mark Krause | March 22, 2012 at 01:41 PM
Good post John. Thanks. A mantra I’ve heard in the high-tech industry in Seattle and San Francisco is “Fail faster.” I always have liked that because it combines absolution with the presumption that the road to success is littered with failure. What’s important is to learn your lessons and get on with the next project. While there’s only so fast that scripts can be written (at least by me) that mantra has relevance to artists too.
Posted by: Duane Kelly | March 22, 2012 at 06:42 PM
"Fail faster." Interesting. I think I like that. Has a nice ring to it. Maybe I'd add "and dream slower." (or "more slowly," for the grammar instructors among us.)
Posted by: Rolando Teco | March 25, 2012 at 11:36 AM
Boy can I relate Roland and your timing is perfect. I recently (this week) got a rejection from the LA Comedy Screenplay Contest for a script that has received 'accolades' through other contests and requested by none other then "DreamWorks" (through a connection at my 'day' job)...I was so angry again as I know this script is great and has the potential to be a Huge Success, but all these 'teases' are heartbreaking and feel like failure to me.
I'm a great off off Broadway play success and I am so enjoying doing my talk-variety public access show (on YouTube - The Unknown Zone Talk Show), but I feel exhausted and sick and tired of re-writing this script and really don't feel like putting in any more time (over 15 years since I the first draft)...
So I'm letting go of it and surrendering it to the Universe at least for now perhaps longer.
Thanks for the great post Roland !
Cheers!
Posted by: Yvonne | March 30, 2012 at 11:18 AM
No one is a bigger fan of Rolo than me, but it was actually my post. :-)
JY
Posted by: John Yearley | March 30, 2012 at 02:15 PM
Oops...sorry John...a bit self-obsessed at the moment...obviously...GREAT POST JOHN !
Posted by: Yvonne | April 02, 2012 at 11:28 AM